Often times we spend our days fantasizing about what we would like life to be like. We think, this year I am going to get fit or get out of debt or finish that novel or get that pay rise. We tell ourselves that we want to be more organized and efficient, however, for the most part these things remain simply fantasies.
Life gets in the way and our plans do not come to pass. We have a halfhearted attempt here and there but as soon as the initial motivation has worn off we just give up, using one of our many pre-prepared excuses. I don’t feel like it, I’m too tired or sick. I have more important things that I have to do. We blame the weather or the current financial climate or other people or situations.
The truth is we are our own boss and we are accountable to ourselves. This is very difficult because we build our lives around what is comfortable and what feels good. Change feels uncomfortable and hard. We often tell ourselves that we lack the right conditions or the right information or the right contacts but the reality is we actually lack the courage to change.
But what if we were actually serious about the things that we want to do? What if we were actually committed to doing what we set out to achieve. Just for today what if we asked ourselves two simple questions;
- If someone was serious about _____ , they would do _______________.
- If someone was serious about _________, they would not _______________.
Then apply these sentences to yourself. For example, if someone was serious about losing weight they would stick to an eating plan and exercise each day even if they didn’t feel like it.
If someone was serious about losing weight they would not eat snacks that were not in their plan and they would not sabotage themselves with excuses.
If I was serious about losing weight I would stick to an eating plan and exercise each day even if I didn’t feel like it and I wouldn’t eat snacks that were not in my plan.
Now decide if you are serious. If you are, make it truth for you: I am serious about losing weight. I stick to my eating plan and exercise each day. I do not eat snacks that are not in my plan. I do not make excuses or sabotage myself.
Follow up with action and the action will be easier.
Apply these two questions to any area where you are stuck and needing direction and watch your life turn around.